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January 11, 2014

Young mom must keep her wits as husband considers leaving

Dear Abby: My husband and I are a young couple, married almost two years. He recently told me he isn’t happy with me anymore and that he may want to leave. He won’t tell me why. He says he doesn’t know why.

It was a complete shock to me. He refuses to seek marriage counseling and has dealt with a lot of depression for which he won’t seek help, either. We have a child, and I am now pregnant again. It hasn’t changed his thoughts about leaving.

What should I do for myself and our children? What can I do to help my husband change his mind? I’m still deeply in love with him. — Confused In South Carolina

Dear Confused: I can only imagine how painful this must be for you. Because your husband won’t see a counselor about your marriage or do anything about his depression, then YOU should. And when you do, start figuring out a “plan B” for how you will support your children if it becomes necessary. You should also consult an attorney who can help you ensure that your husband lives up to his responsibilities if he does decide to leave.

The reason for your husband’s ambivalence will become apparent in time. You may love him deeply, but for your sake and that of your children, it’s important you stay calm and rational.

Dear Abby: I’m a 17-year-old girl, turning 18 soon. Ever since I started high school, my family has pressured me to do my best in everything I do. Some examples: my grades, having the perfect boyfriend and being first in sports.

I know they want the best for me. But I’m a human being. I sometimes make mistakes. At the same time, I don’t want to disappoint them. What should I do? Should I tell them to get off my back or continue to accept their pressure? — Teen In Turmoil, Tulsa, Okla.

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