:Dear Abby: I have just discovered that my granddaughter’s mother helped her get a Facebook page on which she is listed as 17, interested in men and in a relationship. The child is only 11, but you’d never know it from the makeup and hairdo in her photo.
I am heartbroken that she is being “marketed” this way and that her prospects for a life of achievement and happiness are zero. I have little to no contact with her because I have been put off by her mother’s “street” attitude. If her lips are moving, the woman is lying. My granddaughter is disrespectful and ignorant.
What breaks my heart is that I had hoped to pass on to her items that have been in our family for generations, including a sizable inheritance. What can I do to salvage a relationship with a girl who wants nothing to do with me? Failing that, where can I turn to replace her with a more suitable heir? My son can’t father any more children.
Sad granny in Florida
:Dear sad granny: Your granddaughter may be disrespectful because her mother dislikes you, and you haven’t been around enough so the girl could really get to know you. Also, she is only 11. Her mother is presenting her on Facebook in an inappropriate manner (to put it mildly), and the result could be tragic.
Is it possible for your son to talk with a lawyer and seek custody? If it’s not, he should contact child protective services. Rather than “replace” your grandchild, it would be better for all concerned to HELP her.
Dear Abby: Three years ago, I found out that my wife of 14 years was sneaking around behind my back with her high school sweetheart. I confronted both of them and it ended. I forgave her, but I still can’t sleep at night because of something that’s bothering me. His wife has no idea about the affair, and I feel guilty that I haven’t told her about everything that happened.