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June 22, 2014

Lone star transplant longs for return to empire state

Dear Abby: I’m a lifelong New York resident; my husband is not. So when he had an opportunity to move to Houston to be closer to his only brother, he desperately wanted to move.

My children are grown and on their own, so no problem there. Although leaving my career, my mother and my children to move so far away was difficult for me, my husband doesn’t have much of a family, so I knew it was important to him. He never had children, and he wanted to be part of his niece’s and nephew’s lives. So we moved.

Now we’re treated like we don’t exist! We’re not invited to family events, they never visit us and we’re not included during holidays. These are the people who begged us for the last 13 years to move to Texas.

I want to return to New York. He doesn’t want to go. I’m afraid if I insist, I’ll need to move back alone. Should I risk my marriage over it?

Homesick For New York

Dear Homesick: There is a middle ground between moving back to New York and staying in Texas. One of them is making regular trips to visit your mother, children and friends. Another would be to understand that your husband’s family cannot be your sole source of social activity.

You and your husband should join clubs and volunteer your time to some worthy causes. That’s the way people meet each other. Texans are known for their hospitality — so give them a fair chance. But only as a last resort should you sacrifice your marriage.

Dear Abby: I have been dating “Hank” for five years. He has always been a loner. He has never been married and has no kids. We lived together for four years and our relationship is wonderful other than his “just being him.” He’s kind of self-centered and not very communicative.

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