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June 21, 2013

Mom who abandoned daughter now won't leave her alone

:Dear Abby: I was taken away from my parents at 13 and placed into foster care, where I stayed until I aged out at 21. My biological mother is a drug addict who abandoned me to my father when I was 11. She never tried to contact me while I was in care.

I am now 24 and she won’t leave me alone. She sends Facebook messages that alternate between begging me to let her get to know me, and condemning me for being vindictive and not having forgiveness in my heart. Abby, this woman exposed me to drugs and all manner of seedy people and situations. I was molested and beaten by some of the men she picked up to pay the bills.

Am I a horrible person for ignoring her? I’m close to losing my temper and letting her know exactly how angry I am, but I know it would do no good. I just want to move on with my life and advance in my profession without having to worry about this. What do you think?

:Stalked In New York

Dear Stalked: Silence sends a strong message. I think that when the harassment started, you should have immediately blocked this woman on Facebook. It’s not too late to do that now. If she continues to annoy you, consider getting a restraining order.

Because you are on a path to success, allow NOTHING to divert you.

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Dear Abby: On March 14 you printed a question from “Jim in New Jersey” who asked if brand-new clothing should be washed before wearing. Having worked in a shirt factory for years, let me tell you how many hands handle the shirt before it goes into that neat little bag.

1. Someone spreads the fabric and lays the pattern.

2. The cutter cuts it.

3. Someone else ties the different parts together.

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