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September 28, 2012

Dear Abby: Rear attacks require frontal approach

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Dear Abby: I have been married for 35 years. We have one daughter. My husband has this “thing” about grabbing other women’s behinds. He hugs them and then goes in for a grab. It bothers me so much. It hurts my feelings and I have told him so, but he still does it.

Men have told me they don’t want him touching their wives this way. Others have said it’s disrespectful to me. He says he will try to stop doing it. Try? That doesn’t set well with me.

What do you think about this? Am I overreacting? After all these years, I just don’t know what to think.

Hands Off In Rochester, N.Y.

Dear Hands Off: I agree that pinching other women’s bottoms is disrespectful (unless you’re in Italy, where it’s the norm). It appears you have spent 35 years married to an unrepentant lecher. I’d think that by now he would have trouble hugging any woman twice if she saw him with arms outstretched.

Because you can’t convince your husband to change his ways, try this: When a man complains about your husband’s misbehavior, tell him he should deliver that message directly to your spouse. Perhaps that will get the point across.

Dear Abby: I recently married a wonderful man, and I like my in-laws very much. They’re nice, welcoming people and we get along well. There’s just one problem: They are the biggest enablers I have ever met!

With my husband it isn’t a big deal because he’s very self-sufficient. On the other hand, his 30-year-old brother has lived with them for three years. He is jobless and has a drinking problem. His parents don’t encourage him to look for work. They give him an allowance, pay all his court costs and drive him around because he got a DUI.

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