:Dear Abby: My husband and I have two beautiful, hardworking daughters we brought up as loving, respectful parents. Recently, “Kellie,” 25, got tattoos covering her right arm, leg and ankle as well as her shoulders. They are visible unless she wears long sleeves and long pants.
This has ruined our relationship because it shows how little she thinks of us as parents, and how disrespectful of our feelings she is to put the tattoos where everyone can see them. She knows we don’t like tattoos because we have mentioned it to her and voiced our disappointment when she got the first one on her ankle.
I can’t sleep at night or look at my daughter knowing how little she cares about our feelings. I feel it’s a slap in the face that she doesn’t honor, respect or love us. What do you think?
:Beside Myself In Fort Worth
:Dear Beside Yourself: I think it is time you toned down the high drama. What’s done is done. If you do not appreciate the person your daughter is BENEATH her skin, you will lose her. And THAT would be a tragedy!
Dear Abby: I have a 20-plus-year high school friend who is fighting ALS (Lou Gehrig’s disease.) I have developed a close relationship with him and his parents. His mom has shared some of his comments with me, but he hasn’t shared those thoughts with me himself. The comments are, “I want to die,” or, “I want to go home to God.”
I think listening and being a supportive friend is what I can do for him, but I’m at a loss as to what to say to his mother. I don’t know what advice to give her so she can be supportive in her conversations with her dying son.