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December 19, 2012

Woman in love triangle has trouble thinking straight

:Dear Abby: I am a 31-year-old, never-married mother of two. Last summer I started having an affair with “Jordan,” the father of my first child. He left me when our daughter was a year old and has been engaged for three years in an on-again, off-again relationship.

I could give you excuses about why the affair started up again, but the truth is we both knew it was wrong and continued to do it anyway. I never stopped loving him and I thought it would bring him back to me.

Today I found out from Jordan’s fiancee that they have set their wedding date for next spring. She said they would like for me to come. As if it wouldn’t be painful enough to go to the wedding, his fiancee has also asked me to do her hair for the occasion. (I’m a hairstylist.)

Abby, Jordan and I are still having an affair. I want to tell her, but I don’t want him to hate me. I believe this wedding is a big mistake for many reasons, not just the obvious. Please give me some outside advice.

Can’t Help Myself In Ohio

Dear Can’t Help Yourself: OK, the first thing to do is wake up, smell the coffee and accept that resuming the sexual relationship with Jordan has not had the desired effect. He WILL be marrying someone else.

Next, concentrate on saving yourself and waste no more of your time on him — that is, if you would like a permanent, monogamous relationship with someone. Jordan has given you ample proof that he is incapable of being faithful to one woman.

And last, tell his fiancee that you do not plan to attend the wedding or do her hair because you are in love with Jordan and have been sleeping with him since last summer.

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