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April 25, 2013

Don't judge the Hammonds or Harrisons

To the editor:

A year has passed since we all have had to suffer the loss of our sweet, innocent, beautiful Caleigh.

There have been some wonderful celebrations recently held in her memory. The Harrison family (father’s side) had decided a celebration of life and planting of a tree would be a way that they could remember Caleigh and try to bring some closure to this tragic event. These sensitive and touching celebrations made front-page news and the public was invited to attend.

In the meantime, Allison’s family (the Hammonds) had planned for a more private means of remembrance. It was held on the one-year anniversary of her loss at Allison’s parents’ house where family and friends gathered for dinner, comfort and support. At dusk they walked together to a natural setting where they all joined hands, prayed and shared their feelings.

This letter does not by any means intend to insinuate anything negative to the Harrison family or their events, but when stones are being thrown by the public — as they have been for too long — I feel someone has to come to the Hammond’s defense.

The above mentioned memorial service was planned without contacting or considering the Hammond family. The Hammond family was never asked to participate or attend.

We all know that marriage separations are complicated and the distance created is to be expected, but it is unthinkable that Caleigh’s mother was not included. Of course the word got around that the mother and her family did not attend these events, and many were appalled.

Any of you who are familiar with the Hammond family, which includes the Bolcome family, know that we have experienced more than our share of tragedies. Way too many of our loved ones have left us much too soon. I will painfully mention one.

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